Sunday, October 21, 2012

Random Thoughts on Forgiveness


Our minds work like computers with huge memories which don’t need a lot of prompting to recall all the work previously done on them and open files fast. We can easily review the history of our dealings with others especially if those encounters were wounding.  Our encounter with those who have hurt us in the past is like conducting a search. Very fast all the negative experiences pop up. Once on the screen we begin in simple arithmetic’s to count all the faults and the wrongs that each person has ever done against us and soon the calculation evolves from a simple arithmetic to a really complex equation.
 Every number identified and counted triggers another memory of what this person has done to us and as we calculate, the figures we arrive at are exponential, mind boggling, emotionally destabilizing and spiritually lethal. The victim of our calculations are critically analyzed, all his trespasses, sins, mistakes and inadequacies numbered. He is therefore consequently presented before the judge of our own hearts and condemned as a criminal without being given an opportunity to argue their case. In the courts of our own hearts with our emotions as the prosecutor the person may be sentenced to life imprisonment or even to death and emotionally blocked out of our hearts for any future dealings or involvement. We not only block them but also others who might present similar characteristics regardless of how genuine they are.
As we make these judgments, we convince ourselves that that the sentences we make are deserving and no one can persuade us otherwise. We resist every voice of reason that may try to argue otherwise and may even open new files for others citing interference and complicity and we judge these guilty as well for challenging our judgment.
Failure to forgive wears us out and complicates our lives. Forgiveness frees us to live to the fullest. what do you think?

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