Our minds work like computers with
huge memories which don’t need a lot of prompting to recall all the work previously done
on them and open files fast. We can easily review the history of our dealings
with others especially if those encounters were wounding. Our encounter with those who have hurt us in the
past is like conducting a search. Very fast all the negative experiences pop up.
Once on the screen we begin in simple arithmetic’s to count all the faults and
the wrongs that each person has ever done against us and soon the calculation
evolves from a simple arithmetic to a really complex equation.
Every number identified and counted triggers
another memory of what this person has done to us and as we calculate, the
figures we arrive at are exponential, mind boggling, emotionally destabilizing
and spiritually lethal. The victim of our calculations are critically analyzed,
all his trespasses, sins, mistakes and inadequacies numbered. He is therefore consequently
presented before the judge of our own hearts and condemned as a criminal
without being given an opportunity to argue their case. In the courts of our
own hearts with our emotions as the prosecutor the person may be sentenced to
life imprisonment or even to death and emotionally blocked out of our hearts
for any future dealings or involvement. We not only block them but also others
who might present similar characteristics regardless of how genuine they are.
As we make these judgments, we convince
ourselves that that the sentences we make are deserving and no one can persuade us
otherwise. We resist
every voice of reason that may try to argue otherwise and may even open new
files for others citing
interference and complicity and we judge these guilty as well for challenging
our judgment.
Failure to forgive wears us out and
complicates our lives. Forgiveness frees us to live to the fullest. what do you think?
